Anger as an Enabling Emotion

Anger is generally perceived as a negative emotion. Its expression is mostly frowned upon, especially in a social setting. People are encouraged to not express their anger as it will have bad consequences as well as people generally stay away from other people expressing anger.

These 7 tips will help you explore anger as a facilitating and enabling emotion rather than the negative and taboo view that is mostly prevalent.

  1. Anger is an emotion in which its purpose or want or goal needs to be dwelled into.
  2. So Anger is a necessary and contacting emotion that helps us to connect with people or ourselves.
  3. Whenever we go through those churning feelings of anger it will help to assert yourself with the other person. Note assertive behavior and aggressive behavior significantly differs in its execution and delivery.
  4. After the understanding of the Want or Purpose or Goal or Desire of the anger you will notice that there will be a significant drop in expressing anger violently.
  5. If anger is expressed physically or violently it will help to dissociate for a moment and ask yourself the question,’ What is the Purpose of the behavior?’
  6. We need to use anger as a whole when we attempt to understand it. Anger is a lot of factors like why, how, what and when of a Goal, Desire, Purpose or Want rather than just understanding it to be the ‘ fire I feel in my belly’, when I think of or go through a situation.
  7. Anger is an integral part of any relationship be it platonic or romantic. A relationship that lacks anger is not very authentic and can often not be based in reality.

Anger and its various nuances of expression can often be very complicated and ill-defined in a relationship. Very often in a relationship it becomes extremely difficult to just negate and move around anger. Without addressing anger properly it can corrupt and terminate a relationship. Hence, if it is very overwhelming to figure out anger in a relationship it becomes imperative to seek professional council and it is best to consult a therapist for Counselling sessions.

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